Thursday, November 13, 2008

Fireproof --- how strong is your relationship with your spouse?

Have you ever had a day when you thought why in the world am I still in this relationship ? What keeps me staying here day in and day out ? Is this love if so why does it hurt so bad sometimes ? Do I honestly love this person ? All of these are questions and are some that even I have asked my self about Jason and I

Every couple has hard times that they face and no one ever said the road to a happy marriage is perfect straight or easy .. (LORD KNOWS ITS NOT) But the little things in life the small unseen gestures and actions sometimes the words that go left unsaid are things that make you and your spouse truly happy ! Are they not ? Ask your self what the best memory you have with your spouse . Or what is it about your significant other that made you fall in love with them !

I have always like to think that Jason and I have a great relationship with each other I mean we do I know that we talk alot and there is no doubt a unconditional and understanding love between us but I've also come to realize that there are somethings we both take for granted in each other , things that the other does that irritates us and alot of times those things go unsaid ! But we both know we love each other with all of our hearts !

Ive seen many family members , friends and even my self go through troubled marriages when things don't seem like they can or will get any better when I stop and really think about it as I sit here almost every one i know has had a rough patch in there marriage my self included some have made it through it , others separated and then there are some that are still struggling with there's .. Know there is hope and if you still love your spouse even if you don't think you do please read the rest of this post and think about it seriously , remember why you fell in love with them and what attracted you to each other chances are that person still exist in you both !

As some of you know I just finished reading the book Fireproof and it touched me in alot of ways made me think about alot of things and I cant wait for my husband to read it so we can go and see the movie together , It made me realize alot of things alot of the temptations that the devil puts in front of us and things that each and every couple go through its not just us so many but i am feeling the need to share ! That Book is amazing its about a couple that have been married 7 yrs ( Jason and I have been married 7 yrs in June of 08) and they are basically just going through the motions and seem to have lost there love for one another or thought they did .. I'm not going to give it all away but i do recommend highly that EVERY ONE read this book its amazing ! married or just in a relationship it will open you eyes to love life respect for not only your self but your spouse and God him self .. The book really touched me and opened my eyes alot to my own relationship to God and made me realize that while we are great theres always room for improvement and why not fall back in love with my husband all over again ! and at the same time build our marriage on the Vows we took before our family and friends and most importantly God 7 yrs ago ... So here I'm writing in black and white that I vow from this day to change our relationship and try as hard as I can to be a good role model for our children so that they have something to know what a marriage should be based on ! .. I got long winded I know but i just felt the need and the urge to write and write I have ! I hope that if your in a relationship where you question your love or the temptations that have been put before you and your spouse that maybe have drawn a wedge between you both I urge you to please take the time to read this book and think about what its saying ! And reamber that God is always there to listen to your thoughts and prayers even tho you might not get the response or the answer you want he is there and he does listen and no matter what the storm is Praise God thought it cause where he puts you in it he will also pull you through it if you have the belife in him and his will to bless your lives ! Here is the caption about the book and what the story line is about !

The Book Is Called Fireproof by

Capt. Caleb Holt lives by the fire fighter's adage: Never leave your partner behind. However, after seven years of marriage, he and his wife have drifted so far apart that Catherine wishes she had never married. As divorce looms, Caleb's father challenges him to commit to a 40-day experiment he calls "The Love Dare


Bridgett said...

I want to see that movie! Paul and I celebrated 8 years in September and we have been through a lot. If we didn't have God helping us we would not be married today! Thank you for sharing your heart.

Tonya said...

No hun, you don't sound preachy. You sound as though this book and its message have deeply touched your heart and soul. You sound encouraged and as if you simply want that for others. My Mom and then cried all through the movie! I can't wait for it to come out. Be sure to check out as you are going to be tomorrows featured blogger! Thanks for shining your light!

Shelly Koskinen said...

We went to see the movie and it is AWESOME!!! I think that I will start giving the "Love Dare" book as wedding gifts...and maybe the DVD when it comes out too.

Chrissy D said...

This was an excellent movie- have not read the book! BUT LOVED THE MOVIE AND THE MESSAGE!!! Thanks for sharing your testimony here!!!

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Kenny said... name is Kenny Loudenbarger and I'm a captain with the Albany Fire Department and also a member of Sherwood baptist Church. I served as the technical advisor for Fireproof and also assisted with the novel. I was cruising the net and found your blog and review of Fireproof the novel....I'm glad that you enjoyed it and hope you see the movie soon...may God bless your marriage as well as your family.